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catsidheUrgh.
First off... I got a bad case of the flu off Mim last night. (Yes, I mean last night. I went to bed fine, spent several hours trying to sleep getting more and more uncomfortable, and woke this morning feeling like a shit smoothie.) I am at work, but I don't know for how much longer.
On Sunday Mim, Abbi and I went to my father's to visit Mother. (That is, my father's mother. I try not to admit any closer relationship.)
She was down from Queensland for my cousin's 21st. Mim and I were surprised that the only way we found out that this do was on was because Da had let it slip during a previous visit. When we found out the Mother would be down, I arranged a visit. We will not let her get away with not seeing her first and only great-granddaughter.
She was a bit stiff when we arrived. (As she pointed out, she has not been around rugrats since my youngest cousin was at that age, and she is about 17 now.) She eventually loosened up, and even spent some time chasing Abbi round the house, every so often carrying her back to where the rest of us were.
It wasn't until we were driving back that Mim let me on to what Mother had told her. Apparently, my Uncle and Aunt had asked Mother whether they should invite us, and she said 'no, because they've got the baby, and they can't do the formal thing.'
How dare she?
Because of her uninformed, and frankly insulting assumption that being parents made us incapable of dressing up or getting a baby sitter, we only even found out about my cousin's 21st by accident, let alone that she would be in the state.
This is the woman, mind you, who couldn't make it down for Mim's and my wedding, yet found the time and energy to come down less than a fortnight later to help my uncle's family drive to Adelaide!
I don't know why I was surprised, frankly. I thought I had long since given up hope of Mother acting like a human being towards my sister and myself. Me? Bitter?
Until Mim told me what Mother had said, I was almost feeling charitable towards her. Leopards don't change their spots. feh.
She admitted regret about how she and my sister were alienated, and hadn't seen or heard from each other for seven years. More details on that farce if people are interested, but suffice it to say that when I told Katherine this, her response was "Too Late," and she is entirely justified in saying so.
First off... I got a bad case of the flu off Mim last night. (Yes, I mean last night. I went to bed fine, spent several hours trying to sleep getting more and more uncomfortable, and woke this morning feeling like a shit smoothie.) I am at work, but I don't know for how much longer.
On Sunday Mim, Abbi and I went to my father's to visit Mother. (That is, my father's mother. I try not to admit any closer relationship.)
She was down from Queensland for my cousin's 21st. Mim and I were surprised that the only way we found out that this do was on was because Da had let it slip during a previous visit. When we found out the Mother would be down, I arranged a visit. We will not let her get away with not seeing her first and only great-granddaughter.
She was a bit stiff when we arrived. (As she pointed out, she has not been around rugrats since my youngest cousin was at that age, and she is about 17 now.) She eventually loosened up, and even spent some time chasing Abbi round the house, every so often carrying her back to where the rest of us were.
It wasn't until we were driving back that Mim let me on to what Mother had told her. Apparently, my Uncle and Aunt had asked Mother whether they should invite us, and she said 'no, because they've got the baby, and they can't do the formal thing.'
How dare she?
Because of her uninformed, and frankly insulting assumption that being parents made us incapable of dressing up or getting a baby sitter, we only even found out about my cousin's 21st by accident, let alone that she would be in the state.
This is the woman, mind you, who couldn't make it down for Mim's and my wedding, yet found the time and energy to come down less than a fortnight later to help my uncle's family drive to Adelaide!
I don't know why I was surprised, frankly. I thought I had long since given up hope of Mother acting like a human being towards my sister and myself. Me? Bitter?
Until Mim told me what Mother had said, I was almost feeling charitable towards her. Leopards don't change their spots. feh.
She admitted regret about how she and my sister were alienated, and hadn't seen or heard from each other for seven years. More details on that farce if people are interested, but suffice it to say that when I told Katherine this, her response was "Too Late," and she is entirely justified in saying so.
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Date: 2004-06-21 09:55 pm (UTC)...Although... it is possible to be an unmitigated bitch and still regret various events and circumstances, such as her relationship with your sister. Which is not a defence for whatever she may have done, simply that people can do both. Up to you and Katherine as to what you do with that idea...
Get better soon.