No, I have trouble with the fact that any physical discipline is wrong, yet the physical restraint of a child, with no qualifiers for duration, severity, or method, is seen as a positive thing by the lack of negative comments made about it.
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First of all, there are countless SERIOUS qualifiers for duration, severity, and method. We had to do constant training to keep us up to date on all the finer points of this. And there is significant oversight specifically put in place to minimize the potential for abuse. The paperwork after a 30 second restraint would take me a minimum of a full hour to complete. Although rare, I've spent entire 10-hour shifts dealing with all the oversight on a single situation that blew up from me saying "No" to a child (which is how most of them start, BTW).
And just to be clear, holds were NEVER, EVER seen as--in any way, shape, form or fashion--"positive". I'm calling you out on a straw man argument, here. Holds were the single thing I hated (and feared, honestly) more than anything at that job--or any other, for that matter. I cried (at home, where I could) more times than I could count that I was forced into the position of physically restraining a child. But given the choice between that and a child--e.g., violently swinging a piece of molding they ripped off a wall with nails sticking out of it, ready to impale someone in the face--I did what I had to to keep everyone safe.
We very much took the same outlook on physical confrontations as does Aikido--neutralizing the physical threat with minimal harm to everyone involved, all the while respecting the dignity and showing compassion for all. This is key.
Railing against the use of restraints, unfortunately, only shows the ignorance from those who have obviously never been in my shoes, or the shoes of my (former) co-workers. Trust me when I say that if there would have been a better way, we would have found it.
on holds and physical restraints
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First of all, there are countless SERIOUS qualifiers for duration, severity, and method. We had to do constant training to keep us up to date on all the finer points of this. And there is significant oversight specifically put in place to minimize the potential for abuse. The paperwork after a 30 second restraint would take me a minimum of a full hour to complete. Although rare, I've spent entire 10-hour shifts dealing with all the oversight on a single situation that blew up from me saying "No" to a child (which is how most of them start, BTW).
And just to be clear, holds were NEVER, EVER seen as--in any way, shape, form or fashion--"positive". I'm calling you out on a straw man argument, here. Holds were the single thing I hated (and feared, honestly) more than anything at that job--or any other, for that matter. I cried (at home, where I could) more times than I could count that I was forced into the position of physically restraining a child. But given the choice between that and a child--e.g., violently swinging a piece of molding they ripped off a wall with nails sticking out of it, ready to impale someone in the face--I did what I had to to keep everyone safe.
We very much took the same outlook on physical confrontations as does Aikido--neutralizing the physical threat with minimal harm to everyone involved, all the while respecting the dignity and showing compassion for all. This is key.
Railing against the use of restraints, unfortunately, only shows the ignorance from those who have obviously never been in my shoes, or the shoes of my (former) co-workers. Trust me when I say that if there would have been a better way, we would have found it.