Thank you thank you thank you! My 15-year-old goddaughter has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's (she coped at one school, and there was Other Stuff going on in her family; then she changed schools to somewhere modern, bright and noisy and she just went into panic/lockdown mode...suddenly there was a diagnosis and all of us going "bwuh"?); and so trying to find some way in to understanding where she is and why she can't deal with stuff *even though she seemed to in the past* has been tricky.
This is the first coherent, relevant thing I've been able to find written by someone whose personality traits remind me of Sarah. this really really helps.
Especially understanding things like: "but how can she come to my loud soprano concert and actually appear to enjoy it?" and the answers we have guessed at are: she knows me and my accompanist; it was very structured and formal; I provided verbal introductions and full written translations for every piece; everyone was quiet except for me and the pianist; it was one voice and one piano; the post-concert affair was extremely sedate with cups of tea. would i be on the right track here?
Seriously, this is great. So at social things, she isn't standing there silently; probably she's standing there *gritting her teeth*.
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Date: 2010-11-05 01:31 pm (UTC)Thank you thank you thank you! My 15-year-old goddaughter has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's (she coped at one school, and there was Other Stuff going on in her family; then she changed schools to somewhere modern, bright and noisy and she just went into panic/lockdown mode...suddenly there was a diagnosis and all of us going "bwuh"?); and so trying to find some way in to understanding where she is and why she can't deal with stuff *even though she seemed to in the past* has been tricky.
This is the first coherent, relevant thing I've been able to find written by someone whose personality traits remind me of Sarah. this really really helps.
Especially understanding things like: "but how can she come to my loud soprano concert and actually appear to enjoy it?" and the answers we have guessed at are: she knows me and my accompanist; it was very structured and formal; I provided verbal introductions and full written translations for every piece; everyone was quiet except for me and the pianist; it was one voice and one piano; the post-concert affair was extremely sedate with cups of tea. would i be on the right track here?
Seriously, this is great. So at social things, she isn't standing there silently; probably she's standing there *gritting her teeth*.